Friendship or etiquette? Woman demands apology after son's mishap at her best friend's wedding!

Weddings are a time of joy, celebration, and sometimes, unexpected drama. For one woman, her best friend's wedding turned into a scene of conflict and hurt feelings, all because of a slice of cake and a child's innocent mistake. The incident has sparked a heated debate about responsibility, friendship, and the unwritten rules of wedding etiquette.


The woman, a 29-year-old guest at the wedding, was left humiliated when her four-year-old son became the center of attention for all the wrong reasons. The young boy, caught up in the excitement of the day, managed to take a chunk out of the wedding cake before the ceremonial cutting. The bride, understandably upset, lost her temper and scolded the child in front of the wedding guests, leading to a confrontation between the two friends.


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The bride broke her best friend's heart after she berated her four-year-old son in public. Image Credit: Pexels/Anastasia Nagibina


In the aftermath, the guest took to Reddit's r/AmItheA****** forum to seek validation for her belief that her friend, the bride, should be the one to apologize first for her outburst. She argued that the bride had initially been unsure about allowing children at the wedding but eventually agreed after being reassured by the guest and her sisters that the presence of kids would not be an issue.


The ceremony itself went off without a hitch, with the children behaving impeccably. However, as the reception progressed and the adults indulged in the festivities, the children were left to their own devices. It was during this time that the cake incident occurred, leading to the bride's angry reaction and the subsequent fallout.

The guest's post on Reddit quickly garnered thousands of comments, with the majority of users siding against her, labeling her YTA – short for 'You're The A**hole.' Commenters pointed out that regardless of how secure the venue felt, it was the responsibility of the parents to supervise their children, especially around important and potentially hazardous items like the wedding cake.

Many argued that an immediate apology was warranted, along with an offer to cover the cost of the damaged cake. They criticized the guest for her lack of supervision and for downplaying the significance of the incident by claiming the rest of the cake was still edible.


The debate raises important questions about the expectations placed on parents at social events and the balance between enjoying oneself and ensuring the safety and appropriate behavior of one's children. It also touches on the complexities of friendship and how to navigate situations where emotions run high, and actions have significant consequences.

In the world of weddings, where every detail is often meticulously planned and cherished, the actions of a single guest – or in this case, a guest's child – can have a ripple effect, impacting relationships and memories. It's a stark reminder that while weddings are a celebration of love and unity, they can also be a test of friendship and understanding.

Key Takeaways

  • A woman's four-year-old son ruined the wedding cake at her best friend's wedding, leading to a confrontation between the two women.
  • The mother believes her friend, the bride, should apologize first for the way she reacted, even though her son caused the incident.
  • The incident led the mother to seek the opinion of Reddit's r/AmItheA****** community, with the consensus being that she was indeed the one at fault.
  • Reddit users agreed that the woman should apologize to the bride for her lack of supervision and also suggested she should offer to pay for part of the damaged cake.
Members, we'd love to hear your thoughts on this delicate situation. Have you ever been in a similar predicament, either as a parent or as a host? How did you handle it, and what do you believe is the proper etiquette when it comes to children at weddings? Share your stories and opinions in the comments below, and let's navigate the tricky waters of social etiquette together.
 

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Absolutely, parents should have been keeping a very close eye on their own children so that incidents like this don't happen. It's a no brainer the parents should be apologising not the bride. That's two apologies now really. How thoughtless can you get!
 
It is totally the responsibility of the parents to take care of their own children, the bride had a meltdown because she had probably been running on adrenalin all day. We were actually at a wedding years back, and one of the guest asked her husband if he'd forgotten something, he did that man shrug thing they do, and my husband was standing behind him with his 14 month old daughter. Oops😮
 
If you invite Children to a Wedding, then you must accept what happens. Children are Children & do things unexpectedly.
Yes…. you can control your children to a certain degree but if you know your child can be a little horror at times, then maybe get that child looked after by a friend or family member.
Common sense should be considered.
 
Reminds me of an incident that happened at McDonald's South Nowra, NSW, over 20 years ago.

At my son's 5th birthday, he and his friends were playing in the playground when he came in crying from a fall.

Some dumb bitch chastised my son, calling him a "stupid little brat" and he shouldn't have been running around the playground.

Well, that was her biggest mistake! I went from 0 to 100 in the blink of an eye. I asked her if she was his mother. She said "no....but" and she stopped. I replied "Well I'm his father and I don't recall ever f**king you!" followed up with "Nobody would f**k you anyway!". It was apparent that she was there with her husband who shrunk back into his seat with embarrassment like a little coward. The whole of McDonald's went very quiet.

NOBODY abuses my children, either verbally or physically without severe consequences!
 
If you invite Children to a Wedding, then you must accept what happens. Children are Children & do things unexpectedly.
Yes…. you can control your children to a certain degree but if you know your child can be a little horror at times, then maybe get that child looked after by a friend or family member.
Common sense should be considered.
So very true.
 
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Reminds me of an incident that happened at McDonald's South Nowra, NSW, over 20 years ago.

At my son's 5th birthday, he and his friends were playing in the playground when he came in crying from a fall.

Some dumb bitch chastised my son, calling him a "stupid little brat" and he shouldn't have been running around the playground.

Well, that was her biggest mistake! I went from 0 to 100 in the blink of an eye. I asked her if she was his mother. She said "no....but" and she stopped. I replied "Well I'm his father and I don't recall ever f**king you!" followed up with "Nobody would f**k you anyway!". It was apparent that she was there with her husband who shrunk back into his seat with embarrassment like a little coward. The whole of McDonald's went very quiet.

NOBODY abuses my children, either verbally or physically without severe consequences!
Reminds me of an incident that happened at McDonald's South Nowra, NSW, over 20 years ago.

At my son's 5th birthday, he and his friends were playing in the playground when he came in crying from a fall.

Some dumb bitch chastised my son, calling him a "stupid little brat" and he shouldn't have been running around the playground.

Well, that was her biggest mistake! I went from 0 to 100 in the blink of an eye. I asked her if she was his mother. She said "no....but" and she stopped. I replied "Well I'm his father and I don't recall ever f**king you!" followed up with "Nobody would f**k you anyway!". It was apparent that she was there with her husband who shrunk back into his seat with embarrassment like a little coward. The whole of McDonald's went very quiet.

NOBODY abuses my children, either verbally or physically without severe consequences!

I can understand annoyance at the woman's comment. However your abusive response was completely over the top. You sound like a bully. God help your wife if she ever happens to say something which might annoy you. That behaviour wasn't supporting your son, it was a ridiculous bullying act! Maybe you need to grow up or take some anger management classes.
 
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To @Frida1944's convoluted and ill formatted reply,

I will deal with my own issues in my own fashion and not be dictated terms by the likes of you with your antiquated, do-gooder, politically correct diatribe.

Now run off to your Country Women's Association meeting and swap Butterick dress patterns, scone recipes and discuss the virtues of Queen Victoria.

Got the message?
 
Too bad the bride didn’t listen to her gut instincts about the uncertainty of allowing children at her wedding.

The guest and her sisters said allowing children to attend would not be an issue. How wrong they were!
 
My wedding invites stated child free...even our own children who were flower girl and page boy were taken home after there little bit of involvement and yet a guests child who was still attending screamed his lungs out half the night and they wonder why we got the shits. Very inconsiderate I think. She now hates my guts because I asked her to quiet the child down and I have pretty much lost the friendship over it as well with my once mate due to his wife's inconsiderate behavior.
 

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